Masha’Allah lately I’ve been hearing about so many sisters starting to wear hijab. I am so proud of them! It’s not easy to start wearing hijab; especially not within the current political climate (#harperfashionpolice, #DressCodepm).
Though hijab is a very important part of Islam, I feel it gets too much attention. Even though praying, fasting, and giving in charity are ranked higher in terms of basic requirements for being considered a Muslim, we seem to define people’s religiosity by whether they wear hijab or not. I guess this is because hijab is the most visible part of worship, this also makes it one of the most debated and difficult decisions.
People often assume that the day someone starts wearing hijab is the day they start to pray and believe in God. This is not true.
Or on the flip side sometimes people assume a new Sheikha/Alima is born and suddenly start expecting the new hijabi to start acting like one!
In reality hijab is often the tip of the ice berg, that sister has most likely changed so much more on the inside before actually choosing to cover her hair with a piece of cloth .
Ultimately it’s the cloth that everyone notices and reacts to– it is annoying yet understandable.
Do you know any new hijabis? In order for you to make the event of a sister deciding to wear hijab just a little bit easier, I compiled a list of do’s and don’ts of welcoming a new hijabi. I even took a crack at making
my version of an Infographic- see below!
- Do buy her a new hijab to get her hijab collection started.
- Don’t assume she’s not the same old Asma anymore. Hijab is the most visible part of the journey she’s been trekking on for the past little while. You can’t see her hair today but she hasn’t changed too much since yesterday.
- Do take her hijab-less photos off of your social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc.
- Don’t list all the things hijabi’s can no longer wear. I know you mean well but one day at a time sister friend.
- Do make duah for her. Make duah that Allah SWT rewards her efforts in this life and in the Hereafter, that He SWT showers her with His limitless blessings, that He SWT guides her to the straight path and makes wearing hijab super easy for her. Ameen.
- Don’t keep telling her that her hair or neck is showing- unless of course she asked you. Wearing the hijab can sometimes be tricky- she’ll get the hang of it without the constant nit-picking.
- Do be a supportive listener. You wouldn’t believe the struggles some sisters face from their very own family and friends when they start wearing hijab. Be a good friend and hear them out- you never know how much your support can help them
- Don’t be a Hijabi-hater- it has almost become sport for people to sit around and discuss that ‘ho-jabi that wears X Y Z’. Please leave the judging to Allah. When you back bite about another hijabi to a new hijabi you’re not encouraging her to avoid dressing a certain way you’re only making her anxious that she is now part of a scrutinized club.
- Do compliment her. Shaytaan comes up with all sorts of tricks to dishearten and weaken the believers –let’s face it- no girl wants to be ugly. Though hijab is a sign of modesty it’s not meant to make you ugly as shaytaan might have you believe. Let her know if you think she looks nice.
- Don’t assume she has become a Sheikha/Alima overnight. She didn’t acquire total Islamic knowledge the moment she covered her hair.
Are you a new hijabi or have some etiquette’s I overlooked? Please share them in the comments below so I can add it to this current list.