My BIGGEST Eid Mistake that you’re probably making too!

Last December my son (6 years old then) asked me “Mama, can you ask Allah if it’s OK if we can celebrate Christmas this year- just once?”

That broke my heart.

I felt like I failed as a Muslim parent living in the West. Here I thought I was this hip and happening Mama- as if better than my own parents at ‘knowing what it’s like growing up here’. Despite implementing the Eid crafts and fun ideas I had Pinned-I was unsuccessful at making him appreciate our own festivals and holidays. I’m not worried that one day he will buy himself a tree and sing carols ;I’m worried that this might be the beginning of an inferiority complex.  Unfortunately it’s not as simple as teaching your child not to want what other kids have- it’s about resisting the Anglo Saxon conformity subtly imposed on every religious minority.

Islamic school

Islamic school

One of the many reasons we send him to Islamic school is for him to develop a strong Islamic identity and to escape the ‘transmuting pot’ of public schools.Unlike the Eurocentric education I received I want him to know that Muslims are awesome and full of rich history .I want him to know that the world is a better place because of Muslims.That they changed the world through their revolutionary inventions ,ideas and laws. I want him to be proud of the fact that Muslims invented Algebra, coffee, vaccines, the windmill, Universities and the first pin-hole camera to name just a few. Though he won’t live in the Islamic school bubble forever, I wanted to shelter him from  discrimination as well as the constant pressure to conform to the Anglo Saxon values. I’m all up for hockey and maplesyrup but not religion, how about you have yours and I have mine?

Yet, here we are discussing why my child wants to celebrate Christmas.

 

Christmas decor

Christmas decor

Does every kid want to celebrate Christmas?

Was I like that? Yup, I absolutely was…While browsing through the Christmas catalogs I secretly  had my Christmas tree and décor all picked out for my hypothetically ‘fun life’. I didn’t long to be Christian, I longed to participate in this really festive and exciting holiday. I longed to join in on the conversations kids had at school about the amazing presents Santa brought them. Instead,  thanks to the hijab on my head, my classmates knew I was different and painstakingly I knew it too. While the school educated us on Christmas, it was up to me to explain that the henna on my hands didn’t hurt and I don’t know why I was unaware of when Eid was. If only the hijab didn’t give away my secret- I could pretend Santa thought I had been “nice” enough to receive gifts too.

I now feel my parents fear of us trying to be like ‘them’ (maybe they found my Christmas catalog)- I understand why they thought attending the Santa Claus parade was like dangling above a slippery slope.

 

Napping on Eid day

Napping on Eid day

Unfortunately they focused so hard on not letting us enjoy Christmas that making Eid fun was the last thing on their minds. If anything, the fear of us adopting non-Muslim values was so strong that they almost didn’t let us have fun on religious holidays because they had fun on their holidays! OK fine I’m exaggerating a tad bit  but seriously our Eid traditions included some aunty or uncle napping!

Even before I was married, I had vowed to make Eid exciting and special. Up until my son asked me about celebrating Christmas, I thought I was doing a pretty good job! It was a real wake up call. His Eid’s might be better than my Eids…but they’re still not good enough.

Sigh

I’m going to take on Goliath and compete with Christmas. Like many Christian or non-Muslim parents I am searching for scientifically proven ways to make our religious holidays ‘merrier’.

I don’t want to create my own version of Christmas (Date palm tree instead of a Pine tree)- I just want Eid to be a fun and joyous occasion that my kids look forward to all year-long and get excited to celebrate (and prefer over all other holidays). I think I was unsuccessful at making Eid as exciting as Christmas because I was competing with the ideals of Christmas my son had in his mind. He has no idea that like anything on TV, it is over hyped and not as fun as it looks.

 

Religious minorities feel excluded during Christmas

Religious minorities feel excluded during Christmas

Many adults of religious minority groups-let alone children -feel  microaggression and subtle discrimination during Christmas which eventually affects their psychological well-being , stress levels and  makes them feel alienated in their own homeland. Eventually some religious minorities try to blend in with the host group by shedding their multicultural garments and nuances. Those that ‘pass’ as non-minorities are afforded privileges the minorities are not. Some parents purposely name their children ethnocentric names like  Muhammad, but they can easily turn  into Mo if they want to ‘pass’ badly enough. I firmly believe instilling religious pride and confidence in our children from the very beginning is essential to protecting their Iman for the long run.

For now I want to make Islam and being a Muslim seem cool.We may be living in a society that barely acknowledges Eid but it doesn’t mean that we can’t make our kids love it. It’s all about associating positive emotions with the Eid experience; so whenever Muslim kids think about Eid- the pleasure centre in their brain lights up- we can do it! This is not your typical ‘how to make Eid fun’ list-  most of the tips are  scientifically proven to evoke happy feelings.

Besides slipping Prozac in everyone’s food- how else can you make everyone feel giddy and joyous on Eid ?

15 ways to make Eid fun

 

Plan Ahead

1) Take time off:  Eid might not fall conveniently on a weekend or national holiday (not yet anyway!) so when planning your vacation days from work – make sure to book days off for Eid. Many families go to work or school because ‘they’re not doing anything anyway’. This speaks volumes to the value of Eid to your children. Eid must not be as important or special as family vacations or appointments- otherwise we would have made time. Obviously in situations where there is no choice- explain to the kids that you otherwise would have loved to.

 

Little Wings Gallery eid decor Etsy

Little Wings Gallery eid decor Etsy

2) Decorate- Actions speak louder than words, beautifying your homes with special decorations during Eid time is symbolic of your happiness and excitement. Allhumdullillah there’s a huge market of chic and professional Eid décor– it might seem expensive but think of it like a one time investment. Bring it out year after year or make your own!

Yourself

Many times it’s us the parents that are the reason why Eid is not fun. If you’re not having a good time chances are your children are not either.

Smiling is sunnah

Smiling is sunnah

3) Look for reasons to be happy smile. Yes it’s really annoying that half your family is celebrating on another day or couldn’t get time off from school or work-  still, try to focus on only the good things today. Put a smile on your face, laugh, sing –be joyous Studies show that forcing yourself to be happy only increases your anxiety but even fake smiling sends happy signals throughout your body.  Let’s not forget that smiling is a Sunnah too!

4) Schedule your fights for another day. “Let’s get ready to RRRRRRRUUUUMMMMBBBBLLLEEE!!!” kinda describes my husband and I on Eid. Fists up, head down, floating like butterflies, stinging like bees. EVERYTHING makes us want to fight. Have a deal with your spouse that you will deal with it tomorrow. Yes Shaytaan is fresh out and ready to make up for the entire month of being locked up- what better way than to cause animosity within the family? If something bothers you, put a reminder on your phone to ‘fight later’ if that’s what going to help you feel better- but on this day just be a ball of joy.

Focus on the kids

5) I’m so guilty of following the motions of Eid, the obligations of what ‘we have to do’ or ‘ the people we have to visit’ that Eid is sometimes a series of taking the kids in and out of car seats and warning them not to get their clothes dirty because we have more houses to visit. Whether you have kids of your own or not- do something nice for the kids you meet on the day of Eid. Have a pocket full of goodies/candies you hand out to the kids you encounter. Tell jokes, pay attention to them- make it your goal to put a smile on their faces.

 

6) Attend an Eid Salah that has a carnival for the kids as well. More than toys and presents, experiences make you happy. Test: ask  your child what toys they got for Eid last year- chances are they won’t remember.They will however remember jumping in the bouncy castle and having their faces painted.

 

7) Kid Party: Most dinner parties focus only  on adults  and children are often an afterthought, leaving parents hunting for kid friendly food or a place to sit where the kids won’t destroy the hosts home. Gather a few parents and host a kids Eid party! The food, the theme, the height of the serving tables- everything should focus on the kids.

Activities

Kid photographers

Kid photographers

8) Digital Eid  Scavenger Hunt: give the kids a list of things to take pictures of through out Eid day. At the end of the evening gather as a family and see Eid through their eyes. (Examples:A picture of:  people hugging at Eid Salah, a happy child, the yummiest thing you ate that day, Papa smiling, someone doing a good deed, a blue bird etc)

9) Around the clock Eid: set your timer on your watch/phone and every hour do something fun for the kids. It could be a sugar free lollipop, stickers, a joke,a balloon, a gift from the dollar store, a visit from the tickle monster- just keep the Eid momentum going!

Give Back

Logically you would think that receiving will make you happier than giving. But the opposite is true! Studies show that getting presents don’t in fact make for a ‘merrier Christmas/Eid’- giving gifts, especially to the less fortunate does.

 

Eid jar to collect sadaqh

Eid jar to collect sadaqh

10) Eid Gift Jar: I came across an article about favourite Christmas traditions- I loved it! Insha’Allah I will definitely be doing this one next year. In the beginning of Ramadan, collect change in a jar all month long. Few days before Eid count the money, buy as many practical things (socks, deodorant, tooth brush, non perishable food) and goodies (chocolate,  body spray, gift cards to restaurants) and put it all in a large gift bag. On Eid day, drive around town looking for the needy. Walk up to the homeless person, say Happy Eid- keep it short and sweet. Explain that it’s your holiday and give them the gift bag.

11) Food bank: Collect non-perishable items and drop them off to the local food-bank or Masjid on the day of Eid and watch your spirits rise!. It’s important to make time to do good deeds on Eid as a reminder that charity is part of our Islamic tradition. Masha’Allah the Ramadan Rangers are an excellent role model for our children to follow.

 Give Gifts 

12) Secret Eidee- Combat the stress of giving everyone the perfect gift and avoid going broke by setting up a system wherein extended family and friends each buy a single gift for the person whose name they drew from a hat. This has been our family tradition for years and its something we all look immensely  forward to.

Our Ramadan Calendar

Our Ramadan Calendar

13) A month long of small gifts: Yes there’s this fear of commercializing Eid but giving gifts is a Sunnah. You don’t have to go overboard but it’s something kids really look forward to. I give my son a treat at iftaar time in his Ramadan calendar- Ramadan is a month long celebration after all (and it’s my way of making up for being cranky!).

 

14) Experience based gifts:As much as you love something when you first unwrap it- its novelty and joy will eventually wear off. Experiences on the other hand still give pleasure as we remember them. Idea: Print out ‘IOU coupons’ for fun experiences such as  2 hours at Chuckee Cheese or a gift certificate for the spa,

Though many of us and especially our children, are not first generation immigrants, the fact of the matter is that as long as we maintain our ‘religious garments’- we will continue to be treated as such. Instead of opting to remove the hijab  or beard to escape the psychological effects of subtle or overt discrimination, we must overcome this issue by taking every opportunity to make our children proud of their Islamic identity. Obviously Eid is just one way to do so- but Allhumdullillah it’s an easy way.

Originally I set out to write a “Top 10 list” on how to make Eid fun, along the way  I unearthed a deeper purpose to this post. It’s not just about how to make Eid fun- it’s why we must make Eid fun. For the sake of the future of the Muslim Ummah please don’t take Eid lightly.

How do you make Eid fun? I would love to hear your traditions.

Chai later,

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45 Comments on My BIGGEST Eid Mistake that you’re probably making too!

  1. Wajiha Amal
    July 15, 2015 at 6:13 pm (2 years ago)

    Love this post so much sahar!!
    Especially loved the tips you shared – such great ideas mA ! Happy Eid ! Hope you have a blessed and FUN filled day iA

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    • Sahar
      July 20, 2015 at 7:34 am (2 years ago)

      Eid MUbarak Wajiha!
      Aww thank you so much! Allhumdullillah Eid was awesome- I REALLY had to exercise points number 3&4 for myself..made a huge difference for the general tone of Eid day. How was your Eid- do anything different this year?

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  2. Rabeea
    July 15, 2015 at 6:44 pm (2 years ago)

    I love this Sahar! Alhumdulillah, we live in an Islamic country but this is the case in our house as well because my 5yo has friends at school who celebrate Christmas and there’s TV. This is my first year of consciously making both Ramadan and Eid fun for the kids and I have realized that I loved it too, despite the extra effort it took. I loved sitting down everyday to do their daily Ramadan activity with them. I will definitely implement some of your Eid ideas too. Jazakallah Khair and Eid Mubarak.

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    • Sahar
      July 20, 2015 at 7:30 am (2 years ago)

      Eid Mubarak Rabeea!
      You’re absolutely right-it’s the TV!
      Commercials alone can have such an impact- I used to think some of my friends were a bit extreme censoring anything Christmas related for their kids..but I bet their kids aren’t asking for christmas!
      That sounds like fun- what Ramadan activities do you do with them?

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      • Amara
        June 11, 2016 at 4:39 pm (12 months ago)

        Salaam’alikhum, Sahar!

        Thank you for publishing your point of view for Eid Mubarak/Ramadan ideas.

        While I think it’s noble of you to plan ahead to make the holidays special, you cannot compete with the Juggernaut that IS Christmas – it’s not gonna happen. Instead of trying to make society conform to religious minorities, which wouldn’t make any sense…since minority holidays can be celebrated in the home and it’s not about society and what they think anyway. It leaves two options… Celebrate the holiday for the joy of worshipping Allah SWT and accept non-publicizing it as being part of living in a non-Muslim country. OR…move to an Islamic country and problem solved! We can’t expect everyone to cater to us, that’s being unreasonable. Would we expect Christmas or Easter to be commercially celebrated in an Islamic country? Absolutely not. So why expect predominately Christian societies to celebrate or publicize holidays of non-Christian belief systems? It’s common sense.

        Now…onto how to make Eid fun! Christmas doesn’t hold a patent for festive lights! Why not include some festive lighting around the house? The children will see that Muslims can have fun too. Since Christmas isn’t even really a Christian holiday anyway, but a pagan holiday for the Winter Solstice, which was hijaked by the Roman Catholic Church and given a “Christian” veneer so the Pagans would convert to Christianity; I see no reason why some of the winter solstice remnants can’t be used to decorate a tablescape (namely evergreen boughs, festive lights, candles and Eid decorations {lanterns, etc.}). It would be celebrating Eid and showing the little ones that Muslims aren’t “too serious” and can have fun too … Just without the nativity scene. It wouldn’t make it Eid-mas or Eid-ukkah, but it would lend to a festive atmosphere around Eid! As you stated above, make sure to take time off work and the gift idea is great!!!!!! Kids are all about fun. No one likes to be left out. Going to school or in a social setting and having “gifts from Santa” constantly pushed in a kid’s face is no fun…and being left out can make the child resent Islam. So find a way to make it a time of year when everything is special. That’s how Christmas has become a commercial holiday and not a religious one. It’s all about the gifts. No one cares what the gifts are representative of anymore.

        For kids…it’s about toys, cookies and wonder. Make Eid a magical time of year and break tradition by creating NEW traditions. Keeping separate is fine, but if it’s done at the price of making your child resent Islam because it’s “no fun” and you’ve lost the war because you didn’t make concessions in one skirmish.

        Before the “haram police” start QQing about my post…
        A.) I don’t care (what any Haram police think or feel). Finding ways to pull in things that aren’t actual religious rituals from another faith never hurt anyone.

        B.) The theories I proposed is how you get results! Baking special Eid cookies with your children, allowing them the freedom of decorating the house for Eid with festive Eid lights and decorations will only add to the excitement of the holiday for kids.

        C.) Reserve one night (not Dec 25th) for a special Eid gift or gifts. It’ll keep the kids from being left out when kids brag about their presents and the “poor Muslim kids” have none. Even Jewish children get 8 Hanukkah gifts…Islamic children ARE feeling left out. They’re telling us parents so by asking to celebrate Christmas…even if only once. Make your special night to celebrate the gifts Allah (swt) has allowed the family to be able to buy for one another as a night to thank Allah (swt) for His mercy and blessings. Open each gift in the name of Allah and make time to pray together as a family for one or all prayers that day.

        D.) instead of reading “‘Twas the Night before Christmas”, read a children’s book about Eid, or another Islamic Children’s book.

        E.) make Eid decorations to hang in the window or on the wall.

        These are many ideas that could be used to make Eid a festive and joyous holiday, allowing the kids not to feel left out and also allowing them to enjoy learning about Eid and making Eid memories and traditions they too can do with their children when they grow up. While we are to remain separate, if we live in a multicultural society where we are the minority – we have two options. Hold to our faith and make our religious views as “fun” as the other religion appears – or lose our children to other faiths because they are more fun than we are. Does that mean we promote their religions? No. Modifying things we can use goes right along with Islamic inventiveness… We just re-invent historic non-religious customs to become OUR religious customs. Again…the modern, commercialized Christmas we see today is based on a pagan festival for the winter solstice. So don’t confuse things. 😉

        Thanks again for the post!

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  3. Kulz
    July 15, 2015 at 9:34 pm (2 years ago)

    This post resonated with me on so many levels! Thank you for sharing WHY we should make Eid fun. This blog makes me feel all these butterflies of excitement for Eid!

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    • Sahar
      July 20, 2015 at 7:35 am (2 years ago)

      Eid Mubarak Kulz!
      You’re most welcome 🙂
      AWW really? so glad to hear that! I hope you had an awesome Eid!

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  4. Nargis
    July 15, 2015 at 10:14 pm (2 years ago)

    Love the article. Much needed. Here is what we are doing this year: We are holding and hosting a driveway Eid party for the whole neighbourhood. Setting up a canopy, getting balloons, henna, food, treats etc..Some other Muslims in the area are donating money to buy stuff. We want our kids to feel they can share their fun tradition with the non Muslims as well. Let them see that we can be fun too 🙂 and that we exist! Once they get used to us doing it on the street in the front we can take it next year to the back yard as well. Neighbours will get to meet each other. Someone mentioned roasting corn and BBQ so lets see how that goes. I hope that you can try it as well and write about how yours went inshallah.

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    • Sahar
      July 20, 2015 at 7:43 am (2 years ago)

      Eid Mubarak Nargis!
      Umm… BEST IDEA EVER!!
      Can I add it to my post?
      Masha’Allah- that’s brilliant! you’re absolutely right about making our kids share their fun traditions with non-Muslim kids.. that feeling of pride and being the trendsetter for once is priceless. I LOVE the idea of making it inclusive and giving Eid exposure to people in our community.
      Please let me know how it went.. I would love to see pictures and write about it in an Eid re-cap.If you’re able to, please email me some pictures at sahar@chaiwithsahar.com.
      Jazak Allahu khairun for sharing!

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        • Sahar
          July 25, 2015 at 8:58 am (2 years ago)

          Wasalam Nargis
          so glad to hear it went well- Thank you tons for the pictures and info (working on the article right now!)
          I’m seriously contemplating it for Eid-ul Adha- might bug you for planning tips 🙂

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          • Nargis
            July 25, 2015 at 10:51 am (2 years ago)

            anytime 🙂

  5. Mohammad Z
    July 16, 2015 at 5:31 pm (2 years ago)

    Wonderful article. The “why” we make Eid fun is really important.

    I must say if Eid is difficult for children, it is brutal for young adults. While kids can at least go on carnival rides, the young adults, who do not have much family to visit, usually feel stuck.

    Kids may grow up feeling like they’re missing out on Christmas, but I feel the inferiority complex is worse later on when the only form of halal enjoyment is watching extended family get together and argue 🙂

    But it’s very really cool what you’re doing. I think an effort to make Eid better has to be made.

    I recommend blasting loud Eid Nasheeds – our version of Christmas carols – surprisingly sets the mood.

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    • Sahar
      July 20, 2015 at 7:56 am (2 years ago)

      Eid Mubarak Muhammad Z!
      Jazak Allahu khairun….really appreciate the kind words.
      I thought I was the only one! yes.. Eid as a Young Adult was quite hard! To be honest, I enjoy Eid vicariously through my kids- I focus on their enjoyment which takes the pressure off me to ‘have fun’. So, either have kids or adopt ‘eid kids’ (cousins, neighbours , nieces/nephews etc) and make your Eid about making theirs fun ! lol
      You’re right..halal entertainment is hard to come by…most parents don’t have Eid traditions planned but there’s a huge list of what can’t be done on Eid!
      yeah my son enjoys blasting Nasheeds on our way back from Eid salah..wonder how long it’ll last before they’re not cool anymore.
      Hope you had a fun Eid.

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  6. anum
    July 17, 2015 at 5:20 pm (2 years ago)

    Love this post! I am so glad u did this!! Eid is suppose to be rly exciting and u r sooo right about the experiences. Honestly I don’t remember very many eids but there is one that I still remember till this day. I was probably 7 or 8 and my parents took us to this hugee eid expo and all our family friends were there who were also our age and it was so much fun! the best eid I ever had. Nargis..loveeeee ur idea about doing a driveway eid party! Super important to involve even the nonmuslims in our celebration. It’s a form of dawah in and of itself and in such a fun way!! Thanks for the post!

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    • Sahar
      July 20, 2015 at 8:00 am (2 years ago)

      Eid Mubarak Anum!
      Aww thank you so much!see? perfect example right there! and the best part is the minimal amount of effort required by parents- just make time to attend and Allhumdullillah the experience is enough to be fun and memorable. Thank you so much for sharing!
      I know right? The Driveway Eid party is the coolest idea ever!!

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  7. BritDeshiMummy
    July 20, 2015 at 3:32 pm (2 years ago)

    Love this post! In my family we MAKE Eid special and DIFFERENT from other days. We dress up, all the boys attend mosque together , give gifts , and have a mehendi party the night before! I do feel however that if we didn’t have teenagers or kids in the household that we would do the things we do.

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    • Sahar
      July 25, 2015 at 8:30 am (2 years ago)

      Salaamz BritDeshiMummy
      (Love the name btw)
      You’re right- children really steer the nature of our celebrations on Eid. Making Eid different than other days is key. Thank you for sharing your family traditions

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  8. CreativeKhadija
    July 20, 2015 at 3:45 pm (2 years ago)

    Great article dear, I guess you kid asked this question because you are living in a non Muslim state.. but the tips you have shared are really useful yet interesting!

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    • Sahar
      July 25, 2015 at 8:33 am (2 years ago)

      Thank you CreativeKhadija!
      Yes, I live in Canada- though my son goes to Islamic school, Christmas has reached him. It’s the biggest holiday around the world so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised.
      Where do you live?

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  9. Amina Edota
    July 21, 2015 at 3:27 am (2 years ago)

    We hosted a large group of orphans and their carers for an Eid party this year and it was a blast. Alhamdulillah…

    We had contributions, volunteers and amazing support from many people, Masha Allah. I thought of our helpers as ‘foot soldiers’ sent from Allah (swt) – Only He could have made it possible.

    Picture a green field, balloons, party hats, face painting, bouncy castle, snacks, drinks, food and fun all the way. And everyone went home with a party bag – adults and children.

    *Best EID Ever*

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    • Ayesha
      July 22, 2015 at 5:13 am (2 years ago)

      Well done MashaAllah!!! Sounds like a blast

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  10. Sara Essop
    July 21, 2015 at 7:13 am (2 years ago)

    Wonderful post Sahar! This is so relevant for us Muslims living in non-Muslim countries. Will be implementing these ideas next year Insha Allah!

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    • Sahar
      July 25, 2015 at 8:47 am (2 years ago)

      Salamz Sara
      thank you! I hope you do..and I would love to hear about it too.
      Allhumdullillah living in a non-Muslim country forces us to make a bigger deal out of Eid- we had a relative visiting from India and he was impressed with how much funner Canadian Eids are.

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  11. Ayesha
    July 22, 2015 at 5:12 am (2 years ago)

    This has always been a focus point for me as well. The night before Eid when the kids are already in bed, I usually decorate the house with balloons, a big banner, set up a gifts table for the children, make certificates for them with regards to how many fasts they managed to keep/how well behaved they were. I think its also important to have the build-up of the excitement. In the days leading up to Eid, we shop for gifts for friends/cousins ect, buy new clothes, bake and decorate biscuits.

    This year Alhamdulillah I was able to take time off work, and travel to spend Eid with my family, making it even more wonderful for the children. We had a huge gifts table, bubbles, and lots of yummies. It really warmed my heart when my son said “I’ll never forget this day” Alhamdulillah!

    And yes, its not about competing with other religions/cultures, but just about making the children feel like they’re valid and their celebrations are wonderful too!This was a great-up 🙂 Well done

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    • Ayesha
      July 22, 2015 at 5:43 am (2 years ago)

      *great write-up

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      • Sahar
        July 25, 2015 at 8:53 am (2 years ago)

        😉

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    • Sahar
      July 25, 2015 at 8:52 am (2 years ago)

      Salaamz Ayesha
      That is the nicest thing to hear from your child!!! It validates all of the hard work and planning- congrats!
      Thank you so much for sharing your family traditions! You’re quite the planner Masha’Allah.
      Certificates? that so cool!
      I totally agree with building the excitement- thanx to Ramadan, I manage to with Eid ul Fitr but Eid ul Adha always just creeps up on me! Insha’Allah this year I will be better.

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  12. Haya
    July 22, 2015 at 4:58 pm (2 years ago)

    Really enjoyed reading this.

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    • Sahar
      July 25, 2015 at 8:55 am (2 years ago)

      Salamz Haya,
      🙂 Thank you for stopping by

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  13. Haya
    July 22, 2015 at 5:02 pm (2 years ago)

    nice!!! did you maje the henna paste?

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  14. Foz
    July 22, 2015 at 6:02 pm (2 years ago)

    Excellent tips. It is so important to make Eid fun for the kids living in the west…. we ended up driving to another city who were having a fun fair.

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    • Sahar
      July 25, 2015 at 8:56 am (2 years ago)

      Salaamz Foz,
      thank you!
      We ended up missing the fun fair this year due to scheduling conflicts but our neighbours were planning a Kids Carnival the next day so we didn’t feel too bad.

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  15. Autumn | It's Autumn's Life
    July 23, 2015 at 2:35 am (2 years ago)

    These are great tips Sahar! I think every kid here kind of goes through the same thing… my friend’s kid said similar things. They just want to be the same as others and Christmas is such a huge, commercialized holiday that it is easy to feel left out. Insha’Allah your tips will help!

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    • Sahar
      July 25, 2015 at 9:02 am (2 years ago)

      Thank you Autumn.
      I really hope the tips help someone Insha’Allah.
      You’re right- I thought that I could shield my kids from it by manipulating their environment..I guess it’s more realistic that I just focus on making Eid as fun as possible instead of acting like Christmas doesn’t exist!

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  16. Zuhkey
    July 23, 2015 at 1:05 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh how I wish I had know about this post! Amazing masha Allah! And my youngest sister had a Ramadhan calender too. It had colorful cards that said what good deed to do on that day and she would collect her prize after its completion. It kept her busy alhamdulillah

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    • Sahar
      July 25, 2015 at 9:05 am (2 years ago)

      Salaamz Zukhey!
      Aww..the next Eid is only 2 months away :)..you can definitely implement them then Insha’Allah.
      Oh wow- that’s such a cool idea. What type of good deeds was she required to do?
      I want to shift the focus of my Ramadan calendar from sugar rush to something productive like your sisters

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  17. Ummbilal01
    July 23, 2015 at 3:04 pm (2 years ago)

    Whoa. You covered it all. It is important we make eid fun for the kids. Heck even for us adults. My hubby and I started the whole eid gift thing between us two and it gets me as excited as a kid would be. This tips would be handy when the kids start coming inshaAllah. Jazakillahu khayr. May Allah make your kids the coolness of your eyes. Ameen

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    • Sahar
      July 25, 2015 at 9:08 am (2 years ago)

      Salaamz UmmBilal!
      Ameen! Jazak Allahu khairun for that beautiful dua 🙂
      lol..Insha’Allah!
      yes! Adults can be the biggest Eid downers..sulking, complaining and so hard to please! I found children really helped me make Eid fun.
      I too love the gift exchange..it’s so much fun!

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  18. Salām in Wonderland
    July 23, 2015 at 6:15 pm (2 years ago)

    Always thought abut this and how I’d do Eid with my own family. Alhamdulillah, as a child my mum would hold great Eid parties at our house so I never felt short of a good celebration.

    Christmas has this magic to it that is just so widespread. I pray we can make Eid like that for our families.

    I love the ideas you mentioned for giving on Eid. Definitely bookmarking this for future reference and sharing with others!

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    • Sahar
      July 25, 2015 at 9:11 am (2 years ago)

      Salaamz Salam in Wonderland!
      Aww thank you for sharing my post..I really appreciate it.
      Masha’Allah your Eid sounds like fun- hope you let your mom know how much you appreciate her making your Eid fun- it really warms parents’ hearts to hear their children appreciate them or their efforts.
      Thanx for stopping by!

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  19. Kinza Sheikh
    August 17, 2015 at 4:27 am (2 years ago)

    Wish I had read this post earlier. It does has a treasure trove of information and ideas.
    Living in a place where you are the only representative of yourself in hard anyway, it gets rougher to the little ones.
    It really is important to focus our attention on them in eid day instead. What better way to make eid fun than spending it with children to make it fun for them.
    I will always follow this idea from now on, insha Allah.

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    • Sahar
      August 23, 2015 at 8:35 am (2 years ago)

      Hey it’s not too late…the next Eid is around the corner:)
      Awww thank you.
      Yeah, who would have thought ‘celebrating’ would be do hard and complicated?!
      You’re right- I found shifting my focus on the kids made my Eid day a lot more fun.

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  20. Larissa
    May 22, 2016 at 8:06 am (1 year ago)

    We are on the same page re Christmas issue AND making Ramadan so much better and cooler. Great article !

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