I love the idea of ‘dating your spouse’. I feel like it is to relationships what a vacation is for your life- it rejuvenates and refreshes .
Not all couples either have the time or believe that one should set aside separate time specific to spending quality romantic time with each other. Almost everyone I know struggles with over scheduled days and never ending ‘To Do’ lists. Suddenly marriage becomes more of a co-worker relationship than a romantic bond. Sometime it’s warped cultural values that prevent couples from nurturing their relationship.
Either way it’s a shame because they are really missing out. Allah SWT has placed such importance on marriage, that it’s mind boggling that we don’t focus on it as much as we should.
One of the worst things Shaytaan can do is break apart a marriage!
Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Iblees placed his throne over the water and then he sends out his troops. The nearest to him are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Iblees says: You have done nothing. Another says: I did not leave this person until I caused discord between him and his wife. Iblees says: You have done well.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
From this hadith we can understand that marriage is very sacred in Islam. If shaytaan is most pleased with his minions that cause marital problems, imagine how pleased Allah SWT will be with those who do the opposite?
Date it Forward
So this weeks Fabulous Friday is dedicated to providing Date Nights for other couples in our lives. Have you ever witnessed another couple experience a rough patch? Sometimes it’s simply life tugging at them in opposite directions straining their marriage and most of the time it’s pure misunderstandings manifesting into ‘problems’.
Though it’s usually wise not to interfere in someone else’s marriage issues (unless asked), there’s no harm in playing the Love Doctor!
All marriages, those plagued with problems or those caught up in the fast lane deserve a little boost now and then.
Here are some Date it Forward ideas for the couples in your lives.
1.Bait N’ Switch.
Invite the lucky couple over for dinner. Once they get to your home hand them directions, cash and restaurant reservation details. If they have kids, set up a fun night for the kids at your place or another fun activity. The couple will probably be all “ok, this is weird..etc”, don’t listen, usher them off to a romantic evening.
Chai tip: be willing to order in dinner ‘as planned’ just in case things don’t go as you wish.
2. Date Night Voucher.
As part of a gift or just because, print out one of these vouchers for a couple with kids. (Click here to download and print voucher)
Sometimes the couples that need Date Night the most, are the ones least capable of making it happen.
3. Group Gift
Next time you’re invited to a house warming or large gathering where several other of your friends are attending, organize a couples get away for the host. Let others know that you will be bringing an envelope that they can put money in and sign a card for the group gift. At the end of the evening, calculate the total contributions and inform the host couple that they are being sent away to a local bed and breakfast etc. All they have to do is provide you with a date that they are free and you will arrange the rest.
For all three Date it Forward ideas, encourage the couple to do the same unto another couple. I believe that Date it Forward is exactly what the Muslim community needs.Healthy families contribute to a healthy society. We need our children to grow up with positive role models in a safe and loving environment. It’s a win win situation when the couples in your life thrive and have strong relationships. Sometimes they just need a little nudge and some help.
Have you ever done your own version of ‘Date it Forward’? Got any more ideas for sprucing up other couples love lives?
p.s. Don’t worry, next week will be about more Halal Date ideas for you to go on.