So many firsts and so much good news to share- totally relishing in Ramadan blessings Allhumdullillah!
I wrote my first guest post ever!!! It’s for the Salam shop blog about being scared of Ramadan. The post was inspired by true events (hehe , you know who you are ;p).
Recently while at an Aqiqah, a really dear friend of mine confided in me: “I’m scared of Ramadan. I feel so bad feeling this way. Everyone tonight has been talking about how they’re so excited and just can’t wait. I feel like such a bad person because I’m thinking the exact opposite-I’m counting down the days I have left of being energetic and productive.”
I knew exactly where she was coming from- I used to feel the same way. This year the fasts will be 17 hours long for North Americans and 19 hours for those in Europe. No food and drink during the hot summer days can make anyone nervous!
(My mouth feels parched just thinking about it)
I have this really annoying habit where if I can fix a problem or am aware of a solution –I Need TO SHARE IT IMMEDIATELY!
Perhaps it’s the teacher in me always ready to harp on teachable moments- I was brimming with excitement- there was so much I wanted to tell her all at once. I can only imagine how I looked, wild eyes, idiotic smile plastered on my face, nodding quickly to hurry her story along waiting for the opportunity to blurt out my epiphany. We’ve been friends for years- I’m hoping she’s used to my ‘quirks’.
I started asking her a series of questions- a very dramatic version of the Socratic method in order to build my case.
Me: Do you eat Suhoor?
Saheli: No- I find that when I don’t eat in the mornings I feel less hungry. Also, every bit of sleep counts! I’d rather sleep in.
Me: What’s the point of Ramadan?
S: umm..to worship Allah, it’s like a training camp- earn as many good deeds as you can and earn protection from the hell fire.
Me: Good job!
S: You’re so annoying
Me: Sorry. The problem is that your actions don’t seem to be in line with your goals. If you want to earn as many good deeds as possible you must eat foods that will provide your body with energy to be able to perform good deeds. Skipping Suhoor to prevent you from feeling hungry would make sense if your goal was managing your hunger. Is your goal for Ramadan to manage your hunger?
S: No…you know it isn’t..but I see how that makes sense. How about the lack of sleep? How much ibadah will I get done if I’m so sleepy?
M: Do you believe that the Prophet PBUH is Allah’s last and final messenger?
S: Are you seriously asking me this question?
M: okay okay.. yes Suhoor is not fard but it is a Sunnah of the Prophet PBUH- there’s always benefit in following the Sunnah . Also, there’s several hadith outlining the virtues of eating Suhoor – even if it’s just a gulp of water or dates. If you eat a vitamin packed Suhoor you a) will have energy to do ibadah and b)won’t feel so tired and lethargic making you subconsciously dread fasting. Napping is a Sunnah too! Iftaar time will be around 9pm- you can definitely squeeze in a nap after work.
S: Makes sense- but what I don’t get is why I feel so listless after eating a meal at iftaar time. Shouldn’t I be full of energy after eating?
M: depends on how much you ate and what you ate. Your digestive system was asleep all day- you need to gently wake it up with small quantities of easy to digest foods like dates. How much do you eat for iftaar?
S: Not much- a bit more than a regular dinner
M: interesting (dramatically stroke my chin)
S: you’re being annoying again
M: I can’t help it! I was born this way.. anyways- during Ramadan you should be eating less than or equal to how much you eat during non-Ramadan days.
S: That doesn’t make sense- you just told me I need to eat to have energy and now you’re saying I need to eat a normal or small dinner after 17 hours of starving myself.
M: *sigh* undernutrition without malnutrition
S: come again?
M: undernutrition without malnutrition- eat less calories than you usually do but whatever you do eat should be nutrient dense.
S: I see, using multiple syllable words are we? If you’re so smart why don’t you write a book?
M: I did!
S: Why an e-book? Not everyone has an e-reader?
M: it’s better for the environment, affordable and the kindle app is free to be used on any device.
S: oh cool! Will check it out
M: YOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!
M: sorry- just always wanted to say that.
S: Lol-You’re going to blog about this aren’t you?
M: you know it!
So here it is!
We’re scared of Ramadan because of 3 reasons: